15 Signs That He Must Display to be Considered A Good Black Man
 | 15 Signs That He Must Display to be Considered A Good Black Man
Choose the wrong mate and you may as well lay next to a boa constrictor. A smart woman learns how to choose her mate wisely! Most women learn how to choose a man the hard way; they go through a gut wrenching string of emotionally detached males, jerks, pimps, thugs and players. Choosing those types and hoping for the best is like falling into water filled with piranhas and expecting them not to eat you. black love Don’t become one of those heart broken and bitter women! Learn how to properly choose a mate before it’s too late! The woman in the mirror will graciously thank you. Good men are everywhere. You have to learn how to spot them. 15 Traits That a Good Man will Display #1 – Ask a man what his vision is…his purpose for his life. If he either can’t answer or gets offended at the question, he isn’t ready. No man needs a partner when there is no assignment. Sometimes women try to give men a vision, but this vision is something he must have on his own. Only then may he need a woman help his bring his vision into fruition. #2 – He states that he wants to be in a committed relationship. No matter how good you cook, clean, pamper him or sex him if he is not ready to be in a relationship NOTHING you do will change that. If he says he is only looking for friends he means that. #3 - Ask him about the previous women in his life (his mother, his sisters and his Ex). If the word “bitch” shows up anywhere in the conversation, let him go. If it’s clear his mother’s opinion will mean more than yours, let him go. He must be ready and able to “leave” the past to be able to “cleave” to you. #4 - A man that has any intentions of being a good mate to you does not pressure you for sex when he meets you. You are not a car; if you meet a man who wants to test drive your physical body, emotions and feelings, point him to a car dealership, bid him adios and don’t look back! #5 - Ask him whom he admires. Ask him why. If his answers are admirable people, you’re fine. Men aspire to become like the men they respect. If he doesn’t have anyone he looks up to, he doesn’t have anyone he’s afraid to disappoint. (“Jesus” is NOT an acceptable answer.) Every man needs someone in his life whom he doesn’t want to let down. If he still says “no one” then I’d be concerned that he’s too full of pride to be a good leader. If he says he admires Bishop Don Magic Juan or Pimpkin Ken then surely you can’t expect that he will treat you well. #6 - Ask him what he sees in YOU. It’s okay if his first answer speaks to your allure – men are visual. However, he must see some of who God has created you to be in order to relate to you properly. He will not protect what he does not value. Being a protector is a big part of what you want in a good man. #7 - He keeps his promises. If your potential mate does such things as: promises to call you but doesn’t, makes dates and breaks them, shows up late or plays games with your emotions; take notes ladies… those are clear cut warning signs that he DOES NOT value you, he DOES NOT love you and he DOES NOT care about you! A good black man is a man of his word. He says what he means and means what he says. His word is his bond. #8 Introductions say it all. In his book, Steve Harvey says the way a man introduces you gives good insight into the status of your relationship. If a man introduces you as a friend or says your name with no title at all, Harvey says you have nothing. “We’re very protective. We mark our territory. If a man loves you…he’s willing to profess it. He’ll give you a title after a while. You’re going to be his lady, his woman, his fiancée, his wife, his baby’s mama, something,” he says. “If he’s introducing you after six months, ‘This is [Jen] …,’ you should be standing there going, ‘This is going nowhere.’” #9 - He does not frequently toss around the words bitch, hoe, nagging and golddigger. If he constantly tosses around the world golddigger he is going to expect you not ask him for anything and he will be unwilling to do much for you. In essence you will be a indepedent woman in a sexually committed , monogamous relationship. Men created the term golddigger to keep women from asking them for anything. Men use the term ‘nagging’ so women would stop badgering them. Which will make a woman expect less of them. #10 – He puts you first and asks what your concerns are and wants to address them. He wants to do things that make you happy. Your opinion counts to him. A good man makes sure that his family is taken care of in every way to the best of his ability. He wants to make sure his woman is happy and satisfied. ”Providing for the ones he loves and care about, whether it’s monetarily or with sweat equity, is part of a man’s DNA, and if he loves and cares for you, this man will provide for you all these things with no limits.” #11 – ”It is your right to expect that a man will pay for your dinner, your movie ticket, your club entry fee, or whatever else he has to pay for in exhange for your time.” Steve Harvey So if you try to pay the check and he will not allow you, chances are he is a good man. When a man really has good intentions with a woman he tries very hard to do right and impress her. #12 – He knows who and what he is. A man must know who he is, his job title and how much he makes. A man has to know these things in order to properly focus on a relationship and give his mate the love and support that she requires as a woman. If he is at a point where he can define these 3 things then chances are he is able to be in a fulfilling relationship. #13 – A man being of God does not guarantee that he will be a good mate. But if he has good morals when it comes to what’s right and what’s wrong, chances are that he will be a good mate. If he prefers to hang around other men who are in committed relationships versus men who cheat or live the bachelor life that says a lot about him. So judge him by his character. If he is patient, kind, unselfish and righteous; then he can be a good mate. One that is easily angered or frustrated may not make the best mate. A good man does not lie to himself or to others. He lives in truth. A good man is intune with a higher spirit and believes that there is life after his body leaves this earth. This is the type of man who will be responsible and hold himself accountable for his actions. These are the things that make the very core of a good man. 14 – A good man marries his woman and makes her a proper lady in the eyes of society. He does not keep her his girlfriend or baby mama for 10 years. (check the dating and marriage times on the slideshow on page 3) 15 – A good man does not hit his woman. He does not belittle her to make himself feel better. He loves you too much to do such a thing. No excuses ladies. When you meet a good man he will actually take pride in being a good man. He will take pride in being a role model for boys and other men. He will also take pride in his relationship with you. This man understands that he is unique and not easy to come by. So when you meet Mr. Good Man treat him accordingly and know that you must be fruitful yourself in order to capture him. Self-love: if you don’t have it, pull yourself off the market. Make no mistake about it, if you don’t love yourself, NO MAN can ever love you… no matter how great a man he is. 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